Category: Essays

Last weekend, I taught my introduction to sex toys workshop for Valentine’s Day. In addition to a 101 on body-safe sex toy basics and a rundown on what…

Valentine’s Day has never been particularly meaningful to me, but it certainly is in our culture. The narrative that being partnered is significantly more desirable than being single—or…

A few nights ago, I felt lonely—really, truly, devastatingly lonely—for the first time in a very long time. Being alone has never bothered me. In fact, I quite…

I feel confident and secure in my queerness. It’s just that the rest of the world doesn’t always feel the same. When I came out during my third…

Content note: This post discusses misgendering. It’s been a little over a week since I came out to to the world as agender. Since then, some moments have…

When I came out as queer in college, it was never a question of “if.” It was always a question of “when.” (And, as it turns out, that…

Welcome to the first installment in the Sexual Healing Toolkit for Survivors, a blog post series exploring sex toys, sexual wellness products, and other resources survivors can use as…

Content note: This post explores trauma, abuse, PTSD, and dissociation. In the three years since I first wrote about my #SpookyFemme identity, a lot has changed. I fell…

Content note: This post contains general, non-specific mentions of trauma. Sex toys can be powerful tools for survivors to use to access pleasure and explore our bodies and…

Tuesday marks the 46th anniversary of Roe v. Wade, the landmark 1973 Supreme Court case that affirms abortion as a constitutional right. Even though abortion is legal in…