What I Learned from the We-Vibe Touch

When I started this blog, the We-Vibe Touch was one of the first toys I knew I absolutely had to try. I had been reading about the Touch’s magical rumbly vibrations from other sex bloggers for quite some time prior to starting my own site, not to mention that it flew off the shelves more quickly than any other toy at the feminist sex shop I used to work at. Incredibly strong vibrations? Check. A squishy tip? Yes please. And that scoop on the underside of the Touch? My clit dreamed of that scoop for many moons.


A couple of months into my blogging adventure, Heidi at Sexy Time Toys offered to send me a We-Vibe Touch for review. I was ecstatic! I couldn’t wait to try the infamous Touch for myself. So, I tried. And tried. And tried again. And again, and again… you get the point. And nothing. worked. Not only could I not reach orgasm with the Touch, I found very little pleasure in using it at all.

For a while, I felt kind of like a sex blogging failure. Why didn’t the We-Vibe Touch work for me, when it had worked for so many other bloggers and toy lovers before me? After a few tries, I quickly learned that the tip of this toy was just too narrow for me. However, what about the broader back of the Touch? Or the scoop my clit dreamed of? The Touch seemed so full of potential even beyond its squishy tip, and yet I seemed to be able to harness none of it.


After spending some time lamenting my lack of We-Vibe Touch orgasms, I eventually realized that this entire thing was actually a learning experience in disguise. In the time I spent testing out the Touch, I unearthed a whole lot about what actually gets me off, more than I had learned with any other toy (except maybe my first vibrator).

First, I learned that direct, pinpoint clitoral stimulation is not for me. I requested the Touch with the inkling of an idea that direct, pinpoint stimulation might not be my thing, but I thought maybe I just hadn’t tried the right toy yet. Using my fingers to stimulate my clit directly never brought me much pleasure, and bullet vibes were always a no-go, yet I still had hope that the Touch might be right for me since it had worked for so many others. Nope, it turns out that pinpoint stimulation, as well as stimulation from some more narrowish (somewhere in-between a bullet and a wand) vibrators, just doesn’t get me off. (I say some more narrowish vibrators because the L’Amorouse Rosa actually does work for me when I use the base as a handle – more investigation forthcoming!)

Second, I learned that broad stimulation, the kind that wands bring, is what really gets me off. I owned one wand before testing the Touch, but afterwards, when I started to figure out what I really liked, I invested in two stronger wands… and saw stars. Yup, wands and broad stimulation are where it’s at for me. As I continue to test toys and experiment with my own pleasure, this only becomes more and more true.

IMG_7691Most importantly, I learned that what gets a lot of other people off might not necessarily get me off, and what gets me off might not necessarily get a lot of other people off, and that’s okay. My pleasure is my own, and I don’t need to compare my preferences and likes to anybody else’s. My pleasure is valid just as it is.

If you are a fan of direct clitoral stimulation, then the We-Vibe Touch might be the perfect vibrator for you. Handfuls of other bloggers swear by the Touch, and I would highly recommend checking out their reviews if pinpoint stimulation and deep, rumbly vibrations are what you’re all about. The Touch is obviously a thoughtfully made, well-crafted toy – it’s just not for me.

Finally, if you’re thinking about trying the We-Vibe Touch or are just in the market for something new, I highly recommend visiting Sexy Time Toys for a fantastic selection of body-safe toys. Using the affiliate links throughout this post at Sexy Time Toys supports the ongoing success of Formidable Femme, and you’ll get a shiny new toy – everybody wins!

Sexy Time Toys generously provided me with the We-Vibe Touch in exchange for my honest and unbiased review.

Review: Tantus Pack ‘n Play No. 2

I have been lusting after the Pack ‘n Play No. 2 since I discovered my love for squishy dildos almost a year ago. This dildo has everything I look for in an insertable toy: a slightly pronounced head, average length and girth, squishability (I think I just created a new word, folks), and it’s made by one of my absolute favorite companies, Tantus.

When Tantus happily agreed to send me a Pack ‘n Play No. 2 for review, I tried not to get my hopes up too much – I’ve been let down by many a dildo in my time, most often because my eyes are bigger than my vagina or the material is just too firm for my liking. However, I am pleased to report that the Pack ‘n Play No. 2 quickly skyrocketed its way to the top of my favorite dildos list, rivaled only by the infamous Vixen Creations Mustang. Tantus, you’ve done it again!


Ever since my Pack ‘n Play No. 2 arrived (quickly and discreetly, I might add), I haven’t wanted to let it out of my sight. When I get a new review item, I usually inspect it, give the silicone a squeeze to see how squishy and soft it is/test out vibration strength and modes, then put it back in its box and revisit it in a couple of days. This was not the case with the Pack ‘n Play No. 2. As soon as I opened its box, I became enamored with how squishy this dildo is, with the distinctive curvy vein running down its side, with its unassuming size… I tested it out immediately, and the rest is history.

The Pack ‘n Play No. 2 feels really, really great. I have no complaints about its design or functionality as a dildo at all. (As for its functionality as a packer, well… more on that later.) It’s one of the smallest insertable toys in my collection, with just over six inches of insertable length and a maximum diameter of 1.6 inches at its widest point, but for me, this is a major plus. I can very comfortably insert the entire length of this dildo inside of me, something I can’t say for many of my other toys.


My favorite feature of the Pack ‘n Play No 2., and the reason it gets along so well with my vagina, is its bendable, squishy silicone. This dildo is made from Tantus‘ ultra-premium super soft silicone, but unlike their line of dual-density toys, the Pack ‘n Play No. 2 doesn’t have a firm inner core. The entire dildo is made of this super soft silicone, and there is certainly a noticeable difference between this dildo and those in Tantus’ dual-density line. This toy, along with the Pack ‘n Play No. 1, are the softest and squishiest in the Tantus catalog. While Tantus’ super soft silicone isn’t quite as squishy as VixSkin’s outer layer, the Pack ‘n Play No. 2 is still an excellent choice if you’re looking for a luxurious, flexible, squishable dildo.

One of the selling features of this dildo, as its name declares, is that it can be used for packing as well as internal stimulation. I am far from a packing expert, but in testing its abilities out at home, I was unable to use this dildo as a packer without it being extremely noticeable through my pants. While the Pack ‘n Play No. 2‘s silicone allows this dildo to be comfortably bent from tip to base, in my opinion it is just still too stiff to comfortably pack. This seems to be the consensus among bloggers in general, but if any of my readers have a different experience, I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

Everything from the Pack ‘n Play No. 2‘s smooth, shiny head to its flexible matte silicone shaft to its modest, yet fulfilling size combines to create an absolute knockout toy. While I have yet to reach orgasm with any kind of G-spot stimulation, I love internal stimulation in general, particularly the sensation of being completely filled, and the Pack ‘n Play No. 2 excels at just that.

I would without a doubt recommend the Pack ‘n Play No. 2 to pretty much anyone. Unless you’re looking for a very firm dildo with a long length and wide girth, I think this dildo would be a great selection for a broad range of people and preferences. If you’re a squishy dildo connoisseur or want to experiment with softer toys, I firmly believe you need this one in your toybox. All in all, the Pack ‘n Play No 2. is an absolute gem. Many thanks to Tantus for sending it my way!

Tantus generously provided me with the Pack ‘n Play No. 2 in exchange for my honest and unbiased review.

If you enjoyed this review and want to support the ongoing success of Formidable Femme, please consider using the affiliate links used throughout this post. Many thanks in advance!

It’s the Great Fall Giveaway, Charlie Brown!

Any other Great Pumpkin fans out there? Just me? Okay then.

I’m incredibly excited to announce my fall giveaway! This giveaway is celebrating a lot of things: my return to blogging, my birthday, my favorite season, and the start of a new chapter in my life. I’m also happy that I get to share three of my favorite things with you with this giveaway: squishy dildos, erotica, and money to spend on anything you’d like.

In my short stay thus far in the sex blogging community, I’ve had the pleasure of connecting with amazing writers and innovative, thoughtful companies. Three of those companies – Vixen Creations, Tantus, and Filthy Dirty – and one writer – the talented Rachel Kramer Bussel – have generously offered to sponsor this giveaway.

Thanks to the above donors, this giveaway has four prizes! You are welcome to enter to win any and all products you are eligible for. (Only one of the prizes has a location limitation, so most of them have no restrictions.)

Finally, a few rules before we get to the products:

  • You must be 18 or over to enter. If you enter to win one of the dildos, you must live in a country where sex toys are legal.
  • No giveaway only accounts, please. I will be checking when each winner is chosen.
  • The giveaway ends at 12 AM East Coast USA time on November 23rd, 2015. I will email each winner immediately, and the winners will have five days to email me back with their shipping address in order to claim their prize. If the winner doesn’t contact with me within that time frame, another winner will be chosen for that specific prize.

Now, on to the good stuff!

Prize #1: Vixen Creations Mustang in Tie Bright

mustanggggUm. Um? Can we just talk about how awesome this dildo is? Vixen Creations’ Mustang is one of most beloved and highly-lauded dildos in the sex blogging community and beyond. (To dildos and beyond! Okay.) The Mustang is made from Vixen Creations’ fantastic dual-density VixSkin silicone, making it super squishy and super wonderful. Also, the colors on this one are truly incredible. I’m not-so-secretly very jealous of whoever wins this dildo. (Yeah, yeah, I have one, but I need these Tie Bright colors in my life!)

Not only is this dildo awesome – Vixen Creations is, too. I was lucky enough to build a relationship with them in college when they donated products to our campus’ LGBTQ+ organization to give away during our annual pride week. When I contacted them to ask about donating a Mustang to this giveaway, they eagerly agreed!

Vixen Creations is shipping me this prize and I will be sending it to the winner, so this one is open worldwide.

Vixen Creations Mustang

Prize #2: Tantus Uncut #1 in Cocoa

Tantus’ Uncut line of dildos was one of the most anticipated sex toy releases in 2015, and I couldn’t be happier for the opportunity to give one away! My own just arrived in the mail so I haven’t had the chance to experience the Uncut #1 for myself, but the majority of bloggers who have reviewed the Uncut have nothing but praises to sing about this dildo. The Uncut #1 is made from Tantus’ dual density silicone, and the one I’m giving away is in the cocoa color. The color in the picture above is a bit lighter than the dildo’s actual color, so for a more accurate look, check out Miss Ruby’s review of the Uncut #1.

Tantus is a huge supporter of the sex blogging community, and was my first affiliate as a baby blogger a few months ago. They graciously offered to send me a prize of my choice for this giveaway, and even threw in a Pleasure Revolutionary sticker and a few very tiny dildos for the winner. Tantus is shipping me this prize and I will be sending it to the winner, so this one is open worldwide.

Tantus Uncut #1

Prize #3: Dirty Dates Erotica Anthology edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel (Autographed copy!)

Recently, I signed up to review Rachel Kramer Bussel‘s newest BDSM erotica anthology from Cleis Press, Dirty Dates, out on November 10th, 2015. As soon as I completed the form, Rachel emailed me and asked if there was anything else she could do to help. I explained I was hosting a giveaway in the coming days, and she graciously offered a signed copy of Dirty Dates to include in the prizes! In June, I reviewed Come Again: Sex Toy Erotica, another anthology Rachel edited… and I absolutely loved it! Rachel is a seasoned writer, editor, and blogger, and I have no doubt that Dirty Dates will be just as enthralling and inclusive as Come Again. I’m so excited that one of you will have the opportunity to read it as well!

Rachel Kramer Bussel is shipping me this prize and I will be sending it to the winner, so this one is open worldwide.

Dirty Dates Erotica Anthology

Prize #4: $25 Gift Card to Filthy Dirty

Filthy Dirty is a wonderful online boutique with a firm commitment to selling only the highest quality body-safe toys. I’ve had the pleasure of speaking with their founder about toys, body safety, and reviewing since mid-summer, and when I mentioned I was planning a giveaway, Filthy Dirty was more than happy to jump on board. The winner of this prize gets a $25 gift card to spend on anything in Filthy Dirty’s online shop – that could cover a couple of bottles of Sliquid, take care of one-third of the price of the Original Magic Wand, – anything your heart desires!

This prize is open to residents of the United States and Canada.

$25 Filthy Dirty Gift Card

Good luck!

Review: Tantus Curve

When I first launched Formidable Femme five months ago, I created a list of companies to reach out to once my website design was finished, my first review was posted, and my social media accounts were up and running with consistent content and a small following. (Eh, I still forget I have an Instagram sometimes. Whoops.) However, sending that initial e-mail to a well-known toymaker when you’re just a baby sex blogger is much more easier said than done. Honestly, it’s intimidating. I didn’t know what to expect or how my website would be received by the sex blogger world and the companies that we partner with.

After sending a few emails to companies and connecting with incredible bloggers on Twitter, I realized I had no need to worry; the sex blogging community is an unbelievably welcoming one. The very first company I connected with was Tantus, an incredible and highly-regarded sex toy manufacturer. Tantus sent me my first-ever products for review, and for that they will always have a special place in my heart. Tantus, thank you for sending me the Curve in exchange for my honest review!

The Basics

My Curve arrived quickly and discreetly, and the toy itself was packaged in Tantus‘ signature snazzy, colorful see-through box. The Curve comes in three colors – purple haze, midnight purple, and black. My Curve is midnight purple, a beautifully deep shade that stands out in my toy box and just happens to be my favorite color.

As noted on its packaging, the Curve is made from Tantus’ 100% ultra-premium silicone, meaning that this toy (and Tantus’ entire line) is completely body-safe. Given that the Curve is made of silicone, it’s best to only use water-based lube with this toy, as silicone-based lube can sometimes degrade the quality of silicone toys. I recommend Good Clean Love – it’s wonderfully thick, won’t slide off your toy, and even doubles as a dildo beret!

The Curve is 6″ long with a diameter of 1.37″. As suggested by its name, this dildo’s most notable feature is its distinct curve. The Curve’s angle sets this toy apart from a majority of other Tantus dildos and is the main reason why I requested it for review. Another unique feature of the Curve is its teardrop-shaped base, which I find incredibly helpful during use and a nice aesthetic addition to the toy in general. The base is both harness compatible and safe for anal use.

When I took my Curve out of the box, I was pleasantly surprised at its sleek, matte feel. Prior to the Curve, my only experience using Tantus toys was with the Vamp and the Echo Handle, both of which are glossy dildos with much more drag than Tantus’ matte toys. The Curve is firm but still relatively flexible, and I find that its finish and flexibility make it much more comfortable to use than my other glossier Tantus dildos.

My Experience with the Curve

Upon first glance, the Tantus Curve seems relatively unassuming, especially given its average proportions. The Curve’s girth is smaller than my favorite, no-need-to-warm-up-to dildo, so I thought the Curve would be a breeze to insert with an ample amount of lube… but I quickly learned otherwise. I was surprised to discover that I can’t comfortably insert this dildo without warming up first, something I attribute to a combination of this toy’s firmness and shape. I typically prefer soft, squishy, dual-density dildos, and the Curve’s curve (ha) makes this dildo seem girthier than it actually is.

The first couple of times I used this toy, I was underwhelmed. However, once I figured out that I needed a warm-up dildo (my beloved Vixen Creations Mustang) before using the Curve, this dildo and I started to get along reaalllly well. The Curve is wonderful for short, hard thrusts, which filled a gap in my toy box I didn’t even know I was missing. The Curve’s head is fairly subtle, which makes thrusting much more comfortable for me than other dildos with extremely pronounced heads. The Curve gives me a delicious feeling of being filled, even though its length and girth are quite average. I’m never left wanting more after using this dildo; it’s deeply satisfying all on its own.

It’s obvious that Tantus put a lot of creative and intentional thought into designing the Curve. This attention to detail is apparent in many features of the Curve, but particularly in its teardrop base. The base is a unique addition to the Curve that I really appreciate – almost every time I use a dildo with a round-shaped base, it turns backwards during use and I find myself readjusting numerous times in one session. Thanks to the teardrop base, I never have this problem with the Curve. The base makes the Curve easy to hold on to and provides an easy way to tell if the dildo has shifted inside of me at all. I’d love to see this base design become more common!

Final Thoughts

Once I got used to the Curve, I really liked it. This dildo has become a welcome addition to my toybox and is perfect for those times where I’m craving deep thrusts and a fully-filled sensation. I can’t think of anything about the Curve that I would change, which is pretty remarkable. Tantus, you’ve impressed me once again!

If you’re considering getting a Curve for yourself, or any other Tantus toy for that matter, please consider buying directly from their website. Finally, to learn more about and support Tantus’ newest amazing project, check out their recently launched Indiegogo campaign to create The Rumble, an innovative and creative vibrator for every body!

Tantus generously provided me with the Curve in exchange for my honest and unbiased review.

Review: Je Joue Uma

Welcome, dear readers! I know, I know, it’s been a while. After an incredibly difficult summer and a recent whirlwind move to a new state (complete with a new job, new apartment, new everything), I’m finally ready to return to Formidable Femme and work on putting out regular content. That being said, I’m also trying this thing where I attempt not to make myself feel bad about taking time away from here so soon after I launched the site – this frame of mind doesn’t always work, but if I’ve learned one thing in my short stay thus far in the sex blogger community, it’s that people want you to put yourself first. They understand when life gets in the way and you need to spend all your energy taking care of yourself – and they’ll still be here when you get back. So, before we get started, I’d like to give a massive thank you to this amazing community for being supportive and always offering me kind words of encouragement over the past few months. And now, I declare my blogging hiatus officially over!

Before I get started, I must give a million thanks to AfterDarque for sending me the Uma to review and for being so patient and understanding with me while I navigated the past few months. If you’re looking for a fantastic, 100% body-safe online shop run by compassionate and caring people, AfterDarque is the place to go!

Je Joue’s Uma

The Basics

Je Joue’s Uma is a versatile vibrator that offers opportunities for both internal and external stimulation as well as a wide range of vibration patterns and speeds. My Uma arrived quickly in a discreet, unmarked package (thanks, AfterDarque!), and I was pleased to find that the vibrator itself was contained in a sleek black box with only the Je Joue emblem emblazoned on top. Inside the box is the Uma, a magnetic charging cable, and an instruction booklet.

The Uma comes in four colors – black, fuchsia, lilac, and purple – and is completely body safe, waterproof, and is made out of smooth, velvety silicone. It is seven inches long and features a slim design that gets gradually girthy at either end of the toy with the magnetic charging port located at the bottom. Uma’s charger easily becomes displaced from the port, so it’s important to place Uma on a steady surface to avoid any charging mishaps.

The Uma has three buttons on the bottom of the toy: +, -, and ~. Holding the + button down turns Uma on and pressing it allows you to cycle upwards through the five vibration settings. Holding the – button down turns the Uma off and pressing it allows you to cycle downwards through the five vibration settings. Pressing the ~ button in the middle allows you to cycle through the seven vibration patterns (including the steady vibration mode.) These buttons are incredibly hard to push – when I first received my Uma, I thought it was broken because the buttons weren’t turning the toy on. Later I found out I just wasn’t pushing hard enough. (Seriously, y’all, these are intense buttons.)

One of this toy’s most notable features is its unique set of vibrations. Uma’s vibrations are a sort of pulsing rumble, not strictly on either size of the rumbly-buzzy spectrum, but instead residing somewhere in between towards the rumbly end. This pulsing rumble moves slightly towards the buzzy side of the spectrum when cycling through to the higher speeds, but even on the highest level, the buzzy quality is not overwhelming by any means.

While the Uma isn’t the loudest vibrator I’ve ever heard, it’s not the quietest either. Its unique set of vibrations is accompanied by a unique sound unlike any vibrator I’ve heard before. I’m not exactly sure how to describe this sound – the best I can do is “fluttery rattling.” (A coworker of mine said Je Joue toys sound like angry beetles. I can’t really disagree.)

My Experience with the Uma

All unforeseen life events aside, it’s taken me a long time to figure out how exactly to write this review, particularly this section. Despite the versatility this toy offers, Uma just didn’t do it for me.

To begin with, I’m not a huge fan of internal vibration, so it’s no huge surprise that I didn’t find the Uma super stimulating for my G-spot. Hoping that the Uma would fare better externally than internally, I turned to my clit for the answer, but still came up short. Additionally, Uma was uncomfortable to insert without warming up first. This was particularly surprising to me given Uma’s relatively slim size and velvety silicone feel, but it happened time and time again.

I’m one of those rare people (I’ve come to find out) who truly appreciates and enjoys buzzier vibrations. While I do also like rumbly vibrations, it’s usually the high, buzzy settings of a vibrator that push me over the edge. Even though Uma’s vibrations strike a balance between rumbly and buzzy, the buzzy vibrations aren’t strong enough for my liking, even on the highest setting. Furthermore, I usually prefer softer, dual-density toys for internal use, which may have been why Uma’s sturdiness didn’t quite hit the spot.

It’s important to highlight here that my experience with the Uma are based on personal preference. It just so happens that what Uma brings to the table – internal vibration, hardness, and a unique, rumbly vibration set – just doesn’t jive with what gets me off. However, I do think this could be the perfect vibrator for someone else! To read up on some other positive reviews of the Uma to see if this may be the vibrator of your dreams, check out reviews by Dizzygirl and Emmeline Peaches.

Uma features a nice G-spot curve.

Final Thoughts

As I’m sure you can tell by now, the Uma wasn’t for me. That isn’t to say, dear reader, that the Uma isn’t for you! As mentioned above, if your tastes are different from mine, I strongly encourage you to check out the above reviews and Uma’s product page on AfterDarque to read more about this vibrator.

If you’re thinking about getting an Uma for yourself, please consider purchasing your toy from AfterDarque. AfterDarque kindly provided the Uma for me in exchange for my honest review, and I can say with complete honesty that they are one of the kindest and most considerate companies I’ve had the pleasure of working with. Even if you’re in the market for a new toy other than the Uma, AfterDarque is sure to have what you’re looking for – with a sexual wellness collection that is entirely non-toxic, you can feel safe, secure, and comfortable shopping with them. As an extra treat, you can get 10% off at AfterDarque with the code “FEMME”!