Category: Essays

Content note: abuse. january 3, 2019 I’ve been driving a lot. I feel safe in my car. It is my space, every square inch of it. I say…

I have a love/nervous relationship with conferences. I met my partner at the biggest LGBTQ+ conference in the United States, wholeheartedly look forward to Woodhull’s Sexual Freedom Summit…

Content note: extensive discussion of abuse, weight, body image, and food restriction. As I often do when I’m nostalgic or missing my chosen family, I recently took a…

If you’ve followed me for a while, you’ve probably seen me talk about my work at O.school, an online platform for pleasure-focused, trauma-informed sex education. I’ve been involved…

Since July 2016, I’ve been living a blissful LELO-less existence. I was convinced I’d never be in possession of one of their products ever again. Sure, I’d see…

I wrote the notes for this blog post on an empty evening flight home from Toronto, having just left my first Playground Conference. Fully intending to relax, listen…

Oh, hello! I’m guessing you’re here because you’re ready to shop until you drop—or at least until your cart is overflowing with sex toys for Valentine’s Day and…

Last year, I wrote a post detailing 7 commitment sex toy companies can make in 2017. I called on companies to actively work to defend and expand human…

It’s been over a year since the 2016 presidential election. I imagine that night will be forever burned into my memory: hosting a a victory party, watching the…

Content warning: trauma, abuse, death I’m exhausted. I wake up and feel exhausted. I read the news and feel exhausted. I go to work and feel exhausted. I…